Don’t be a lonely blogger; no man knows it all. Social networking and relationship building are just about what you’ll need most in building that blog of your dream.
I learned this lesson the hard way, and until I did; all about my blogging career was crawling like a snail.
It easy to get tempted trying to be that superman – that one hero that fix almost everything that got broken on his own – but when it comes to achieving greater success……you just can’t find a superman.
There is no such in the universe, it only exist in the book.
So how do you grow your social networking channels and established meaningful connections that help grow your blogging career to its apex?
But right before we go into that; is important we talked about those wrong places to start looking for networking and relationship building.
You Can’t Walk The Ladder From Top To Bottom.
If you’re just starting out online, I mean if you’re freshly dressed up here – you’ll have come across many great advices on how you can speed up your way to attract good attention from top influencer.
But, hey! You’ve tried and tried and tried, and these things never happen. Darren Rowse never check you out, nor did he even reply to comment you left on his post that took almost half an hour for you to craft out such comments.
Nor did Brain Clark ever re-tweet your most talked about blog post that drive you insanely amount of traffic despite all your efforts in following him almost everywhere online….re-tweeting any of his updates, you +1 and likes everything about him.
Wait a second; you will never get what you’re looking for from these people. These are wrong places to start looking for friendship, relationship building and networking for a beginner blogger.
What you will get from these so called authority bloggers is zilch; unless you’ve walked your way up to some great height….. trying to get these people’s attention may become an exercise in futile.
I was thinking same way like you some years back, but luckily for me I met a guy who quickly told me it won’t do me any good trying to be friend with an already established blogger at the beginning of my blogging career – good I listen to his advice.
Where To Start Building Networking And relationship.
You’ll need to start with your peer group, and after that, gradually, when you see how things are moving with you, you can start looking for these authority bloggers on their social gathering and their blogs.
Your peer groups are the best tools available to you for building relationship, established effective connections and good solid social networking. These are the people that will genuinely sing your praises, celebrates your tiny success and recommend you to others.
I wish you agree with this in quick time; so you don’t start waiting for ships at the airport.
Top 10 Qualities for Social Networking and Relationship Building.
Here I will talk about those qualities you’ll need to possess in other to attract good meaningful connections and build better relationship.
1. Appreciate People first.
This is mostly important in building good solid relationship and better social networking with your peers.
Don’t look to yourself as high above others; appreciate others talent, their personalities, their status, culture, background, etc. If you don’t learn to celebrate other people’s life, then no one will sing your praises.
2. Help others.
Don’t try to always be at the receiving end.
Life is all about give and take, you get what you pay for and only if you’re giving then you can receive.
Learn to help others with whatever is in your possession; be it skills, money, properties, wisdom, knowledge, advices and just about any way you can be of help to someone.
When you visit your regular online communities, listen to people complains, their worries and fears – see how you can be of help. This will not only get you noticed but also elevate you to an expert status.
3. Share Your Problem with Others.
Yes, just as it’s important for you to help others, so also is important for you to share your problem with other too. Don’t give sign that you’re Mr. know it all.
Raise discussion, and ask others to get involved in providing solution to it.
4. Be Real.
I have some young friends guilty of this; some of my friends on Facebook do some horrible things that most likely give negative remarks about them – something so silly like deliberately wrong spelling of their names e.g, “Sunday” was spelled out as “Xundey”.
There are many issues with things like this: First, if I were your old friend and have lost contact for quite some time; I decide to check you out on Facebook by typing your full name (both with surname); there is just no way for me to identify you.
Second; if am to do business with you online, I may consider you a scammer. Why manipulating your name?
And when chatting online; spell every word out correctly. Avoid using abbreviations except when it’s necessary and appropriate. This shows some sort of respect, maturity and seriousness in you.
Some people go as far as abbreviating any word they type to the point of writing “okay” as “k”. This get me annoyed and makes me feels you just don’t have my time or the time you spend with me is not valuable to you.
5. Your Appearance.
Yes, it’s true that the internet is faceless communities, but remember your profile pictures are there to tell who you are and what you look like.
Don’t make people have negative feelings about you just because your profile says so. Upload good looking pictures of yourself and not that of a celebrity, cartoon or that of an animal.
Most people online like to interact with someone they can at least see he is human and not robots.
6. Listen to others.
Don’t make it a habit to always want to win the arguments; give other people’s taught, experiences, advices and solution a try. You can’t do it all alone, if you can, why reading this post?
7. Overcome Fear.
Take away the inferiority complex inside you out. If you’re not seeing yourself as someone who can do it, then how do you expect others to believe you can do it?
You have to beat that fear inside of you out immediately, see things in the bigger picture and believe you can do it.
8. Branding and packaging.
This is highly important in today’s business world.
You have to brand yourself so people look at you with an impressive look, and wanted to associate with you and your business. No one likes to be associated with negative things, so package yourself in a modest way and present yourself as a civilized citizen.
9. Communicates Appropriately.
The way you address others matters a lot, especially when you’re speaking to someone on the other side of the world. These are people from different cultural background, nations, blood, lifestyle, thinking, ideology, races, etc.
Learn how to communicate properly, and speak to people in a tone that shows respect. Don’t be rude in your communication. Cause you may never get that second chance to amend things.
If I have to write all 10 qualities out here, then I’ll become guilty of point number 3. Number 2 on my list says, “help others”, I have done that by providing you with 9 point that I know of that will be of help in this regard.
While number 3 says, “Share your problem with others too”, so my problem is that I don’t know the 10th quality to better social networking and relationship building.
Help me out.